FEMINIST FRIDAY – Celebrating Ginny

“We can have feminist icons, but the real heroines are just quietly doing what is needed”  Osyth

 

Thirty eight years ago when my oldest son started kindergarten, I met a group of women who have become my lifelong friends and companions on this journey of life.  One of these women is my dear friend, Ginny.

Ginny was the driving force that made possible these lifelong friendships.  When our children were in the eighth grade and soon to go all different high schools, Ginny put together our lunch group.  For 30 years we have gotten together once a month to laugh and cry and to keep in touch with each others lives. During those 30 years our group suffered enormous losses.  We lost husbands, children and friends.  We were the very best medicine for each other.   Because after each tragedy, we taught each other the lesson that it was alright to continue to laugh and live.   We could not and would not have stayed together except for Ginny.  She kept in touch with all of us and made sure that we met once a month to celebrate someone’s birthday.  She  had many troubles in her life but she always remained optimistic and no matter what was going on in her life would be concerned about my life.  She was our fearless and much loved lunch leader.

My dear, brave friend lost her battle to cancer last week.  She leaves a hole in my life that cannot be filled.  I will forever miss hearing her say,   “And how are you honey and where do you think we should meet for lunch.”  The following quote from Audrey Hepburn was Ginny’s credo:  “THE BEST THING TO HOLD ONTO IN THIS LIFE IS EACH OTHER.”  

GINNY YOU ROCK!

 

Please feel free to share in the comments section a link to a story about an inspiring woman in your life.

THOUGHTS ON THURSDAY

Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live.  Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God.  Wherever you die, I will die, and there I will be buried.

We are so accustomed to hearing these words spoken at a marriage ceremony, that I don’t think many of us stop to ponder that this pledge was made by a daughter-in-law (Ruth) to a mother-in-law (Naomi).

It is a beautiful book in the Bible written about the love between two women and their resourcefulness in overcoming adversity.

If you have had times in your life when the love and friendship of women have helped you not just to survive but thrive, I invite you to link your story to Feminist Friday to celebrate all women on Sunday.

Wishing you times spent with cherished women friends family,

Bernadette

GOLDEN GIRLS CELEBRATE SPRING BREAK

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Every Tuesday Two Writing Teachers provide an opportunity to share your writing.

“Make new friends but keep the old.  One is silver but the other is gold.”

Do you remember this little song from the Brownie’s?  If you are very lucky you learned from an early age the value of girlfriends.  I have been fortunate my entire life to be blest with the most wonderful women friends.

Last week a group of six of us ran away from our responsibilities for a few days and spent some time laughing and relaxing and just being friends.

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My dear friend, Fran, dubbed us the Golden Girls on Spring Break but I think we were truly golden – gold in the fact that we were women who have been friends for decades.  We have helped each other in sickness and in grief and we still laugh hysterically at how silly we can be (like when we checked into the wrong hotel the first night) and how much joy there is in this world to celebrate.

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From the left we are: Jane, Mag, Barb, Fran, Michele and Bernadette, aka The Golden Girls

Wishing you the gold and silver of friendship,

Bernadette

Celebrating Ginny

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“THE BEST THING TO HOLD ONTO IN THIS LIFE IS EACH OTHER.”

Audrey Hepburn

Thirty six years ago when my oldest son started kindergarten, I met a group of women who have become my lifelong friends and companions on this journey of life.  One of these women is my dear friend, Ginny.

Ginny is the driving force that has made possible these lifelong friendships.  When our children were in the eighth grade and soon to go all different high schools, Ginny put together our lunch group.  For 27 years we have gotten together once a month to laugh and cry and to keep in touch with each others lives.  We would not have stayed together except for Ginny.  She kept in touch with all of us and made sure that we met once a month to celebrate someone’s birthday.  She has had many troubles in her life but she has always remained optimistic and no matter what was going on in her life would be concerned about my life.  She is our fearless and much loved lunch leader.

This week our dear leader had an 11 hour surgery and basically has been cut from stem to stern.  I always knew Ginny was made of sturdy material and this week proved it.  She made it through this horrible surgery and is marching forward to recovery.  I am sure it won’t be long before I hear her say, “And how are you honey and where do you think we should meet for lunch.”

This week I celebrate my friend’s recovery and being able to hold onto each other for many years to come.

MY WEEKLY THANK YOU NOTE TO GOD.
MY WEEKLY THANK YOU NOTE TO GOD.

Wishing you the gift of friendship,

Bernadette

Thoughts on Thursday

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I INVITE YOU TO JOIN THE NAOMI AND RUTH PROJECT. SEND YOUR POST TO BLAG515@GMAIL.COM

Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live.  Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God.  Wherever you die, I will die, and there I will be buried.

We are so accustomed to hearing these words spoken at a marriage ceremony, that I don’t think many of us stop to ponder that this pledge was made by a daughter-in-law (Ruth) to a mother-in-law (Naomi).

It is a beautiful book in the Bible written about the love between two women and their resourcefulness in overcoming adversity.

If you have had times in your life when the love and friendship of women have helped you not just to survive but thrive, I invite you to send me your story and I will include it in the Naomi and Ruth Project.

You can read more about this project at https://haddonmusings.com/2015/08/02/the-naomi-and-ruth-project.

Wishing you times spent with cherished women friends family,

Bernadette

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LINDA

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Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.
Marcel Proust

I was invited to a birthday party on Saturday.  It was a surprise birthday party for my friend, Linda.  I have known Linda for a very long time.  We met when we each were carrying our first child.  These sons will soon turn 40.  It amazes me the amount of time I have been friends with Linda.

We have shared some very fun and funny experiences and we have shared some very tragic.  We have raised our children in the same town and our husbands have the same profession.  But I couldn’t help but wonder are these the things that have made us friends all these years?  What is it about someone that makes them a friend and keeps them a friend.

Oh, I know the usual answers – caring, good listening, trust, generosity, etc.  These are all very important ingredients of friendship but I still felt that there was some intangible reason that I hadn’t figured out.  Then I came across this quote from Proust.  It revealed to me the intangible reason – friends simply make you happy and therefore you want to keep them in your life.

So, Happy Birthday Linda.  Your friendship for these 40 odd years has simply made me happy.  Thanks for the happiness and helping the garden of my soul to bloom.

Wishing my readers a week filled with opportunities for your soul to bloom.

Bernadette

THANKSGIVING

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”  

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

I was having coffee with my two very dear friends, Fran and Nancy, last Saturday.  Nancy was recounting how her granddaughter asked her why we are all here.  We started musing about how difficult life can be at times, what is the meaning of our lives, and what is the meaning of all these very hard losses.  We concluded our philosophical discussion with we didn’t know the meaning of our own lives let alone try to explain the meaning of life to a young child.

Afterward,  I couldn’t get our conversation out of my mind.  I started to think about all the beautiful  women friends I am so thankful to have in my life.  I  mused about all the struggles and suffering they have experienced and I have experienced.  And I came to the conclusion that one of the reason we are all here is to save each others life.  I know that every single one of these women have saved my life and I hope that I have been able to do the same for them.

I have a lot to be thankful for in my life.  I have a wonderful husband who I have been married to for 41 years and loving children, grandchildren, and a daughter in law who I love and am proud to call my friend.

This Thanksgiving I will be giving thanks that these beautiful women are my friends.

May your Thanksgiving be filled with many reasons to be grateful.

Bernadette