52 WEEKS OF THANKFULNESS – WEEK 10

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BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD.

I invite you to come and join me on this pilgrimage to change the world through thankfulness.  Perhaps if enough of us join together we can change the negative climate that exists and is overtaking our planet. Together we can move our fellow citizens of to a better, higher and finer place.

At the end of the post you will find a link up frog and I hope you will join me on this venture and once a week write a post and link up to others and share what you are thankful for this week.

I recently saw some images of sailboats that reminded me of my longtime friendship with Connie and Ginny.

NEW SAILBOAT

At one time we were three magnificent sailboats.  Our sails caught the wind sharply and our hull gleamed with fresh paint.

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Now after having navigated the happy and sad seas of life our sails have been mended many times and the paint on our craft has faded but still maintains a beautiful patina that cannot be reproduced without having lived a long life.

OLD SAILBOAT

And I give thanks that we still have our friendship and we are still sailing our own boats.

 

I hope that by writing these posts that we will move together beyond thankfulness into appreciation. Because appreciation for the moments and things for which we give thanks requires us to be mindful of our lives. We’ve seen it all, tried it all, and even done it all.  I am so grateful that we’ve been through it together.

Thank you for joining me today,
bernadette

PLEASE ADD YOUR POST AND TOGETHER WE WILL CHANGE THE WORLD.

I am sharing this today with my friends over at Two Writing Teachers who hold an open forum for writers every Tuesday.  Go visit.

Every Tuesday Two Writing Teachers provide an opportunity  to share your writing.
Every Tuesday Two Writing Teachers provide an opportunity to share your writing.

52 WEEKS OF THANKFULNESS

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BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD.

This Monday post became a Tuesday post this week due to the holiday.

I believe in the power of positive group energy.  Perhaps if enough of us join together we can change the negative climate that exists and is overtaking our planet.  Together we can move our fellow citizens of to a better, higher and finer place.

I hope that by writing these posts that we will move together beyond thankfulness into appreciation.  Because appreciation for the moments and things for which we give thanks requires us to be mindful of our lives.  One of the “mantras” that the great Vietnamese activist and teacher, Thich Nhat Hanh, has written about in his book, The Art of Communicating, is: “I know you are there”.

At the end of the post you will find a link up frog and I hope you will join me on this venture and once a week write a post and link up to others and share what you are thankful for this week.

This holiday weekend my youngest son came to visit.  It has been a long time since we have come together as a family.  I was overwhelming thankful for this very rare opportunity.  But how did thankfulness become appreciation this weekend.  I think for me by taking the time to follow Thich Nhat Hanh word’s of wisdom to pay attention to the person in front of me, to let that person know that “I know you are there”.

THINGS THAT CAUSED MOMENTS OF APPRECIATION 

  • Talking to my son about his visit with his brother who is severely brain injured.
  • Watching my daughter-in-law, despite her discomfort, treat everyone with loving kindness.
  • Watching the entire family, brothers, fathers, sons, grandfathers and grandson, just enjoy a lot of laughter over the game of bocce.

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Wishing you many moments of appreciation this week,

bernadette

BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD.  SHARE YOUR STORIES OF THANKFULNESS AND APPRECIATION.

I am sharing this post today with my friends over at TWO WRITING TEACHERS.

Every Tuesday Two Writing Teachers provide an opportunity to share your writing.
Every Tuesday Two Writing Teachers provide an opportunity to share your writing.

 

52 WEEKS OF THANKFULNESS

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BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD.

I hesitated to start this project at such an odd time of the year.  But then I reflected on the fact that the hands on my clock “keep on ticking into the future” at a very fast pace these days.  So I decided to seize the day and start this Monday feature.  At the end of the post you will find a link up frog and I hope you will join me on this venture and once a week write a post and link up to others and share what you are thankful for this week.

I believe in the power of positive group energy.  Perhaps if enough of us join together we can change the negative climate that exists and is overtaking our planet.  Together we can move our fellow citizens of to a better, higher and finer place.

I hope that by writing these posts that we will move together beyond thankfulness into appreciation.  Because appreciation for the moments and things for which we give thanks requires us to be mindful of our lives.

Saturday I spent a delightful day in New York City with my much loved husband and very dear friends.  It was a perfect day in every respect and one that I have every reason to be very thankful for.  But at small moments during the day appreciation arose and I experienced the day on a richer level.

THINGS THAT CAUSED MOMENTS OF APPRECIATION 

  • Watching my husband and friend engrossed in a conversation.
  • Feeling a cool breeze when we crossed to the shady side of the street.
  • A big smile given to me by a small child while we waited to cross a street.
  • Being able to dine while appreciating the beauty of the Statue of Liberty and the Hudson River.
  • The intimacy of riding in our car in the dark and speaking about our hopes and fears for our children.

Wishing you many moments of appreciation this week,

bernadette

BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD.  SHARE YOUR STORIES OF THANKFULNESS AND APPRECIATION.

I am sharing this post today with my friends over at TWO WRITING TEACHERS.

Every Tuesday Two Writing Teachers provide an opportunity to share your writing.
Every Tuesday Two Writing Teachers provide an opportunity to share your writing.

I am also linking today with Jacqueline at ACOOKINGPOTANDTWISTEDTALES.COM.

Kindness Challenge Week 4

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This is the end of Week 4 of Niki’s Kindness Challenge.  Niki’s challenge and other lovely, well written posts can be found at The Richness of a Simple Life.  

Although Niki listed many suggestions for challenging yourself in Week Four, I decided that I would concentrate on the kindness of completely listening.  I thought that this would help me to continue to be aware of when I was making unkind, snap judgements which I discussed in Week 3.

In today’s world filled with so many distractions I think it is not easy to be a good listener.  And then when you add in the extra responsibility of listening with kindness it does indeed become a CHALLENGE.

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So how did I define listening with kindness?  “To listen to something demands that your mind be quiet—not mystical quietness, but just quietness. It is only when you listen without ideas and without thoughts, that you are directly in contact, and in being in contact you will understand whether what the other person is saying is true or false.” — Krisnamurti

Why is it so hard to truly listen? Since it’s so difficult for all of us to keep our minds focused and present, it’s no wonder that I found it hard to pay sustained attention to what another person is saying—to be attentive not only to the words but also to the affect and meaning behind those words.

I found that it was difficult not to want to jump in and fix things.   I noticed that I fell into habitual patterns, such interrupting, trying to fix, giving advice, and rehearsing in my mind what I wanted to say.

This has been another very good week of self revelation.  I went into this challenge with one set of expectations and I think that I am going to end this challenge with a completely different set of realizations.

Wishing you a week filled with kindness,

bernadette

SLICE OF LIFE – KINDNESS CHALLENGE WEEK #2

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Every Tuesday Two Writing Teachers provide an opportunity to share your writing.

Yesterday was the start of the second week of my Kindness Challenge.  The challenge this week is to notice the moments of kindness that arise in my day to day experience.

I am really looking forward to this week. I hope to become more mindful of my daily experience by seeking out the evidence of kindness in my daily experience.

Yesterday, I received an Email notifying me that I had received a new follower to my blog.  I went to the web address, http://www.fattymccupcakes.com, to check out their web.

The first post I read was from the teacher named Katie who writes the blog.  It was a post about her desire to teach in the U.K. but she had no idea at all how to go about fulfilling this dream.

I have to admit that I thought the comments were going to run the gamut of:  good luck, live your dream, never give up, etc.  And several of them contained exactly that sentiment but tucked in between those comments were people from the U.K. reaching out to her with offers of assistance – REAL ASSISTANCE!

When I caught up with her latest post, it appears she is well on her way to achieving this goal.

This was a completely unexpected opportunity to witness kindness,  I can’t wait to see what the rest of the week brings.

Wishing you many moments of kindness,

bernadette

MINDFUL

MINDFUL – the basic human ability to be fully present and aware of where we are and what we’re doing and the potential importance of what we are doing.

I have been thinking lately about the number of events that occur in everyday life.  And, how when those events happen, I mostly don’t realize their importance.  And I find this aspect of my life disquieting.

An example, is my friendship with Fran.  If you are very lucky you will get a friend named Fran in your life.  Someone who always knows the right thing to say and the right time to say it.  Someone who will walk beside you when no one else wants to even be associated with you.  Someone who is smart and always knows how to do the things you can’t figure out or haven’t even thought of.  A friend who knows you as you are, understand where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.

The scary part about this is when I met Fran, as we both stood ankle deep in the water of the baby pool, I had no idea that this woman would become such an influential  part of  my life.

I am going to share a picture with you.  These are three very important people to me.  Starting left is Fran and then my dear friend Nancy (who I wrote about in Love is Lovelier..) and the love of my life, my husband, Dom.

On the day that I met these three very significant people, I didn’t wake up and realize that anything momentous was about to happen.  It just did. Don’t you wish that a clap of thunder would sound to wake you up and mark the importance of events in your life?  I look for God’s fingerprints everyday in my life but it seems that I can only see them in retrospect.

Wishing you thunderbolts of awareness and Frans, and Nancys and Doms in your life,

Bernadette

 

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