Sorrow and Loss


The Starry Night

Vincent van Gogh

“When he shall die,
Take him and cut him out in little stars,
And he will make the face of heaven so fine
That all the world will be in love with night
And pay no worship to the garish sun.

William Shakespeare

My dear friends, it is with a very great sorrow that I tell you that my dear son Andrew died yesterday.

52 WEEKS OF THANKFULNESS – WEEK 20

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BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD.

I invite you to come and join me on this pilgrimage to change the world through thankfulness.  Perhaps if enough of us join together we can change the negative climate that exists and is overtaking our planet. Together we can move our fellow citizens of to a better, higher and finer place.

 

On Saturday Dom and I left Haddonfield with two very dear friends to visit New York City and see a show.

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It started out like the perfect day.  The weather was perfect, there were no traffic jams on the New Jersey Turnpike, and we had a delicious leisurely lunch. A lot to be thankful for.  We walked over to the theatre and handed over our tickets.  Suddenly the ticket usher was on her intercom requesting assistance and we were pulled aside and told to wait.  Somehow, I had a feeling that we hadn’t won the Publisher’s Clearinghouse but couldn’t figure out what was the problem.  I was soon disabused of any happy scenarios that I was creating in my mind.  I had purchased the tickets for October 5 and today was November 5.  Horrors!

 I want to give thanks to my friends and husband for their good humor while the management of the theatre worked to resolve this mistake.  They were so gracious and seated us in wonderful seats and never accepted a penny of compensation.  I cannot tell you how many times I said thank you.

Oh, by the way, the show is fantastic.  It is a delightful send up of Broadway musicals and Shakespeare.  When the show ended I was even more thankful for not having missed it.

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I hope that by writing these posts that we will move together beyond thankfulness into appreciation. Because appreciation for the moments and things for which we give thanks requires us to be mindful of our lives. “You didn’t have to do what you did, I thank you.”  Sam and Dave.

At the end of the post you will find a link up frog and I hope you will join me on this venture and once a week write a post and link up to others and share what you are thankful for this week.

 Thank you for joining me today,
bernadette

PLEASE ADD YOUR POST AND TOGETHER WE WILL CHANGE THE WORLD.

THREE DAY QUOTE CHALLENGE – DAY 3 FRIENDSHIP

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BERNADETTE AND DOM

And for my last friendship post I give you my husband who has been my best friend for 44 years.  He is a man who has truly honored his vows to love me for better or worse, richer or poorer, and in sickness and in health.  I am very blest.

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” Friederich Nietzsche

Thank you Joan at https://familyparentingandbeyond.wordpress.com for inviting me to participate in this three day challenge and thank you for stopping by and reading.

bernadette

52 WEEKS OF THANKFULNESS – WEEK 19

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BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD.

I invite you to come and join me on this pilgrimage to change the world through thankfulness.  Perhaps if enough of us join together we can change the negative climate that exists and is overtaking our planet. Together we can move our fellow citizens of to a better, higher and finer place.

Yesterday I had the honor of sharing a room filled with 960 people who had come together to raise money to fight breast cancer and ovarian cancer.  It was a celebration of the women who have survived these cancers and their medical professionals.  One of the keynote speakers was my friend Fran who has not only survived what life has pitched at her, she has grown into an even more amazing person and friend with every passing day.  I am so thankful to be Fran’s friend, and I am so thankful that she is counted among the survivors, but also so thankful for the experience of being at an affair that overflowed with gratitude.

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I am sharing the following poem because it exemplifies Fran’s spirit.

“I have heard there are

troubles of more than one kind.

Some come from ahead and

some come from behind.

But I’ve bought a big bat.

I’m all ready you see.

Now my troubles are going to

have trouble with me!”

Dr. Seuss                     

I hope that by writing these posts that we will move together beyond thankfulness into appreciation. Because appreciation for the moments and things for which we give thanks requires us to be mindful of our lives. “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.”  Eleanor Roosevelt.

At the end of the post you will find a link up frog and I hope you will join me on this venture and once a week write a post and link up to others and share what you are thankful for this week.

 Thank you for joining me today,
bernadette

PLEASE ADD YOUR POST AND TOGETHER WE WILL CHANGE THE WORLD.

52 WEEKS OF THANKFULNESS – WEEK 18

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BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD.

I invite you to come and join me on this pilgrimage to change the world through thankfulness.  Perhaps if enough of us join together we can change the negative climate that exists and is overtaking our planet. Together we can move our fellow citizens of to a better, higher and finer place.

Last week was my departed mother-in-law’s birthday.  I have been thinking about her for the last several days and have been surprised to find that I have been thinking about her with real affection.  I started to notice lately when I would tell stories about Linda that I have been telling those tales with a greater and greater appreciation for this woman  whose strength was only vanquished by death.  Things were not always easy between the two of us.  Linda was a very strong woman and it was very evident to all who knew her.  But in my own quiet way, I am a very strong woman and, well, the two of us didn’t always see eye to eye.  But it seems in the years since her death, that both of us have been released from the tension of two strong wills clashing and it nows occurs to me that we can at last be friends.  I am very thankful to be her friend at last.  “How life catches up with us and teaches us to love and forgive each other.”  Judy Collins

My mother-in-law, Linda:

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I hope that by writing these posts that we will move together beyond thankfulness into appreciation. Because appreciation for the moments and things for which we give thanks requires us to be mindful of our lives. “Love involves a peculiar unfathomable combination of understanding and misunderstanding.” Diane Arbus

At the end of the post you will find a link up frog and I hope you will join me on this venture and once a week write a post and link up to others and share what you are thankful for this week.

 Thank you for joining me today,
bernadette

PLEASE ADD YOUR POST AND TOGETHER WE WILL CHANGE THE WORLD.

TWILIGHT – THREE DAY QUOTE CHALLENGE

My friend Clive over at Take It Easy, http://cliveblogs.wordpress.com, has invited me to participate in a three day quote challenge. Here is day 3 for your consideration.

We are deep into the moody twilight of autumn here in New Jersey. A time of the day that is filled with the hoot of the owl, the smell of a fire and a time for love and cuddling.

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Twilight Time by the Platters always turns my thoughts to romance:

“Heavenly shades of night are falling, it’s twilight time
Out of the mist your voice is calling, ’tis twilight time
When purple-colored curtains mark the end of day
I’ll hear you, my dear, at twilight time

Deepening shadows gather splendor as day is done
Fingers of night will soon surrender the setting sun
I count the moments darling till you’re here with me
Together at last at twilight time

Here, in the afterglow of day, we keep our rendezvous beneath the blue
And, in the same and sweet old way I fall in love again as I did then

Deep in the dark your kiss will thrill me like days of old
Lighting the spark of love that fills me with dreams untold
Each day I pray for evening just to be with you
Together at last at twilight time

Here, in the afterglow of day, we keep our rendezvous beneath the blue
And, in the same and sweet old way I fall in love again as I did then

Deep in the dark your kiss will thrill me like days of old
Lighting the spark of love that fills me with dreams untold
Each day I pray for evening just to be with you
Together at last at twilight time
Together at last at twilight time”

THIS ONE IS FOR YOU DOM♥️

52 WEEKS OF THANKFULNESS – WEEK 13

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BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD.

I invite you to come and join me on this pilgrimage to change the world through thankfulness.  Perhaps if enough of us join together we can change the negative climate that exists and is overtaking our planet. Together we can move our fellow citizens of to a better, higher and finer place.

At the end of the post you will find a link up frog and I hope you will join me on this venture and once a week write a post and link up to others and share what you are thankful for this week.

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This week I went to a wedding and saw two enchanting young people pledge to join their lives together and embark in their tiny boat of marriage to sail the seas of life.  Their hands are young and strong and perhaps together they will create a new tiny set of hands and bring more love into life.

This week I went to a funeral of a kind and generous man.  A man who was taken from the loving arms of his family and friends too early.  His hands were old but still strong.  He has left his wife alone to sail the sea of life and she will miss him.  They brought into life two new sets of hands and so his sons have added more love to the world.

“The more we love the more we lose. The more we lose the more we learn. The more we learn the more we love. It comes full circle. Life is the school, love is the lesson. We cannot lose.”
― Kate McGahan

I am thankful to be a part of this heartbreakingly beautiful circle of life.

I hope that by writing these posts that we will move together beyond thankfulness into appreciation. Because appreciation for the moments and things for which we give thanks requires us to be mindful of our lives. “To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven.”  Ecclesiastes

Thank you for joining me today,
bernadette

PLEASE ADD YOUR POST AND TOGETHER WE WILL CHANGE THE WORLD.

I am sharing this post with my friends over at TwoWritingTeachers.Org.  You might want to hop over there for some inspiration.

Every Tuesday Two Writing Teachers provide an opportunity  to share your writing.
Every Tuesday Two Writing Teachers provide an opportunity to share your writing.

BEAUTY

ALL THINGS LOVED ARE DEEMED BEAUTIFUL BY THE BEHOLDER.

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All photos courtesy of Pinterest.

I am joining Ronavan at Silverthreading.com for her #WQWWC – Writers Quote Wednesday Writers Challenge – “Beauty”  today.

THOUGHTS ON THURSDAY- THE POWER OF LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP

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June is Alzheimer’s and Brain Awareness Month.  Tomorrow I will tell you the story of Laury Sacks and her friends who supported her while she suffered from a form of early onset dementia.

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Pamela Hogan (left), director and producer of the documentary, with her friend Laury Sacks in 2000.
Courtesy of Jeffrey Kimball