THOUGHTS ON THURSDAY

I seem to be stuck on Mother’s Day this month and the yin and yang of it.  Judith Voirst is one of my favorite writers.  What follows is an open letter she wrote to her son and was published by the New York Times in 2005.

That extravagant expressions of affection

Do not necessarily mean that our children adore us,

Or that their failure to write or phone or do lots of lovely things for us

Means that they don’t.

I am, in addition, well aware

That most of the wise, mature, sensible women I know

Have nothing but disdain for Mother’s Day,

Which they rightfully declare to be a crass, commercial way

Of getting guilty children to spend money.

Furthermore, I am hoping that I

Will turn into one of those wise, mature, sensible women

Long before this current decade is through.

But meanwhile, if you know what’s good for you,

Send flowers.

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52 WEEKS OF THANKFULNESS – WEEK 47

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BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD.

I invite you to come and join me on this pilgrimage to change the world through thankfulness.  Perhaps if enough of us join together we can change the negative climate that exists and is overtaking our planet. Together we can move our fellow citizens of to a better, higher and finer place.

Mother’s Day is a holiday I usually like to have over as soon as possible.  It has seemed to me for many years that the day was too emotionally charged.  But this Mother’s day I just enjoyed.  It was calm and filled with small and beautiful surprises.  I had time to enjoy my family and also to do one of my favorite things to do this time of the year – make strawberry jam.

I did my Snoopy dance of celebration and I was thankful for everything that goes into a PERFECT ordinary day.

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Thursday photo prompt – Green#writephoto

 

THE CHOICE

I grew up in the Valley of the Amazons surrounded by strong, beautiful and wise women.  I learned to be fleet of foot, strong of arm and to make wise choices.  I loved the women who raised me and my childhood was happy but there was always a dark cloud that loomed in the background.  The women told me the day would come when I would need to leave the security of the Valley and follow the River of Life to the Tunnels of Choice.  I would need to choose to take either the Tunnel of Self Reliance & Loneliness or the Tunnel of Love & Dependence.

So here I stand this day at the mouth of the tunnels ready to make this choice.  Good thing I brought this pick along with me.  Because all the days of my life I will chip away at the wall that separates my choices.

This is written in response to Sue Vincent’s prompt and for all the daughters of Amazons who continue to chip away at the wall.

Thursday photo prompt – Green#writephoto, https://s.vincent.com/2017/05/11.

 

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FEMINIST FRIDAY

 

 

The age old story of older women being crones and treating younger women horribly, or even trying to delete them permanently, such as the fairy tale of Sleeping Beauty, is very ingrained in our culture.  This story has morphed into the mean mother-in-law who hates her daughter-in-law for stealing away her young, handsome son.

I really haven’t found this to be true.  My personal experience and the experiences of my friends has led me to be perplexed as to why this false myth is so easily accepted.   And as a woman it causes me to be angered that such an image goes unchallenged.

So, to celebrate Mother’s Day I am sharing this updated letter I wrote several years ago to my dear daughter in law Hillary.  I invite you to share a post about a woman whose friendship is dear to you.

Dear Hillary,

When I gave David your telephone number without ever having met you, I didn’t think about the future. I just wanted him to meet a nice, smart gal and from your Dad’s description you fit the bill. Little did I know what happy forces I was unleashing into the universe that day.

Now that you have a son of your own, you have experienced love at first sight. You are starting to realize the very special bond between a Mom and her son. No one, not even your husband, is ever going to look at you with such complete adoration. Sons think we hung the moon and the stars in the heavens just for them. And wait until Lucas gets older and his friends start hanging around. They will awkwardly flirt with you and you will laugh and feel so young. It is very difficult to be a good mother and let that relationship transform. It is so very difficult to say to yourself another woman is now responsible for handing the moon and the stars. Although, truth to be told, there are moments when David is being difficult, I say to myself, “Well, thank you Lord, he isn’t my problem any more.”

David and I were so very close when he was growing up. His intellect is so razor sharp that we could debate and talk about everything under the sun. He confided his hopes, ambitions and misgivings. No wonder when he left for college, I went to bed a cried.

I wanted so much for David but most of all I wanted him to be happy. I am so grateful for that phone call. David has a woman for this part of his life that loves him with the same intensity that I do. You have brought to David and opened in our family a new vein rich in love. Watching you recently with Lucas and David, Dom and I agreed that it gives us peace knowing what an incomparable mother and wife will be taking care of our “boys” when we pass.

I have been so grateful that you have become my friend and confidant. I so hoped in my heart when you and David were married that we would one day become friends, that is why I told you to call me Bernadette and not the mandatory Mom. I wanted you to see me for the person I am and not David’s Mom.

Little did I know when I wrote the above words how your importance to our family would grow.  I have watched you make many many sacrifices out of love for David and your family.  You are a very special mother and my love and respect for you has grown over the last several years.  I am grateful to have you in my life as my much loved friend and cherished family member.

Bernadette

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THOUGHTS ON THURSDAY

Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live.  Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God.  Wherever you die, I will die, and there I will be buried.

We are so accustomed to hearing these words spoken at a marriage ceremony, that I don’t think many of us stop to ponder that this pledge was made by a daughter-in-law (Ruth) to a mother-in-law (Naomi).

It is a beautiful book in the Bible written about the love between two women and their resourcefulness in overcoming adversity.

If you have had times in your life when the love and friendship of women have helped you not just to survive but thrive, I invite you to link your story to Feminist Friday to celebrate all women on Sunday.

Wishing you times spent with cherished women friends family,

Bernadette

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Just Women Getting By: Leaving A Legacy Of Strength

Linda writes a great book. This would make a wonderful Mother’s Day present.

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WOMEN OF STRENGTH, FORTITUDE, AND BRAVERY

In this collection of six serials, Linda Swain Bethea weaves narratives of women through several centuries. The stories span from 1643 to 1957.

Beginning in England in 1643, a young couple travels to Jamestown, Virginia, to begin a new life in the American frontier. The rest of the stories travel from West Texas to North Louisiana to the Texas Panhandle to East Texas. Disease, death, starvation, and prison are faced with stoicism and common sense, and always, with a sense of humor.

The women in each tale stand tall and possess the wisdom and tenacity to hold families together under the worst conditions. Through it all, they persevere, and Linda Swain Bethea’s storytelling is a testament to the legacy they left.
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