FEMINIST FRIDAY 2018

By Bernadette

“We can have feminist icons, but the real heroines are just quietly doing what is needed.”  Osyth

The following post was written by Darlene Foster who writes at Darlenefoster.wordpress.com.  It is the tale of her two great-grandmothers who made a fulfilling life for themselves and their families while enduring great hardships.  What struck me about this story, of these two real heroines, was that Darlene said that because of the legacy of these women it has given her the confidence and courage to know that she can thrive under any circumstance.

A Tale of Two Katharinas, a Legacy of Strong Women

“People will not look forward to posterity who never look backward to their ancestors.” Edmund Burke

I was fortunate to know both of my maternal great-grandmothers. They passed away when I was in my early teens but I remember them well. They were formidable women with hearts of gold. One thing was for sure, you didn´t mess with either of them.
Both great-grandmothers were born into German immigrant farmer families living in South Russia and came to Canada at the beginning of the 20th century to help populate and develop the Prairie Provinces. They certainly did their part in populating the area as they had twenty-four children between the two of them!


The Hoffman family upon arrival to Canada

My grandmother´s mother, Katharina (Herrmann) Hoffman, arrived in Canada in 1909 from South Russia with her husband, three small children and another on the way. Being German, they could no longer safely stay in a country on the verge of a revolution. The Canadian government needed robust, hardy folks to settle the prairies. The steppes of Russia were very similar to the Canadian prairies, the price was right at one dollar and they needed a place to live.

The brave family took the onerous three-week journey across the Atlantic on a cattle ship to Halifax, then on a train to their homestead in southern Alberta. A stop had to be made in Winnipeg so Katharina could give birth to her fourth child, my grandmother. They eventually arrived at their destination; a desolate piece of land with no house, trees, water or neighbours. A temporary house, built from sod blocks carved out of the earth made do until a wooden house was eventually built. The sod was plastered with mud and cow dung inside and out and then whitewashed.


Katharina Hoffman and her Family

Great-grandmother decorated the walls with designs from a cut out potato dipped in beet juice. Katharina had seven more children once settled in Canada. Not all survived childhood as was the case in those days. A great cook, I recall her delicious German baking vividly. She grew a large vegetable garden, her home was kept spotless at all times and she made clothes for her children from flour sacks. She was a plucky, hardworking and resourceful woman who loved her family above all else. I am so lucky to have her blood running through my veins.



Katharina Mehrer and her family

My grandfather´s mother´s story is similar. Also named Katharina (Stoller) Mehrer, she arrived in Canada from South Russia in 1911 with her husband and four children under four, the youngest only six weeks old. With these small children, they travelled through Europe by train, crossed the Atlantic by boat and then across the United States by train before arriving at their homestead in South East Saskatchewan.

This young woman left behind a life of comfort and had to deal with homesickness, extreme climate, a new language and the death of an infant. Not only did she go on to have another nine children, she acted as a midwife to other members of the community, attending over fifty births. She also helped her husband in the fields. There was no time for self-pity. No matter the hardships, she just got on with it. I recall she was a tiny woman full of energy and determination.
I love this story my great-aunt shared about an experience her mother, Katharina Mehrer, had in April of 1912, the first year they were in Canada.
Her husband was out turning sod when he had some trouble with the horses. He called to Katharina, who came across the road, leaving the little ones in the house, thinking she would only be a few minutes. It took a long time before she returned – to an empty house. Panic-stricken she rushed out, calling for the little ones but all that greeted her was silence. After searching the yard she returned to the house wondering what she could say to their father.
In the Kitchen, on one of the walls, there were six large hooks on which to hang heavy garments. On one of these hooks hung the long, black wool coat that her husband had brought from Europe. A long bench sat underneath. As she entered the kitchen she noticed a slight movement of the coat. She pulled it to one side and there sat four little people, sleeping and perspiring. Five-year-old John holding the baby and a little sister on each side of him. He explained to his mother that she was gone so long that he decided to keep them safe in case someone came to take them away.

The little boy, John, was my dear grandfather who passed those nurturing habits on to my mother and me.

Family was everything to my great-grandmothers who handed this value on down the line. These women believed in education and encouraged their children to get a good education and do well in life. Consequently, there are many successful people in our family. Both ideal role models, the Katharinas provided the attributes of determination, steadfastness and tenacity to the subsequent generations.
Whenever I think of these two remarkable women, I appreciate the trail they blazed for the rest of us and am eternally grateful. I am who I am because of them. When I set a goal, I will do everything to achieve it. I am not afraid of hard work and my bosses have often commented on how much work I could accomplish and not break a sweat. I even made the trip back across the Atlantic to live in another country. Mind you, I did it without small children in tow and on an airplane, not a three-week boat journey. Most important, I had a choice. A freedom I also owe to both Katharinas.
When things seem to go wrong for me and I have a bad day, I remind myself of what my great-grandmothers went through and carry on. I believe the strength of our ancestors does sustain us.

The Hoffman, Mehrer and Foster Women Rock!

If you have a story about an inspiring woman, please feel free to leave a link to your post in the comments section.

About Bernadette

I live in the small town of Haddonfield, NJ. I am at an age in my life when I seem to spend time thinking and musing about life. These musings are usually stimulated by my walks through Haddonfield, my reading of books and fellow bloggers, and my interaction with my group of fabulous family and friends.

86 Responses

  6. Soul Gifts

    There are so many pioneering women with similar stories. Here in South Australia’s Barossa Valley there is the remain of a very large hollow tree trunk which was home to a German family with many children for the first few years after their arrival. I can’t remember all the details, but I recall vividly standing looking at the tree wondering how on earth they managed to live there !! And my own grandmother back in Finland, mother to 14 children, lost her family home when her husband lost it in a card game. They lived the rest of their lives in a tiny cottage. She was always knitting socks, even when she was walking, the knitting needles were busy.

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    1. Darlene

      Incredible, living in a tree! They were made of tough stock back then. I am so thankful that I knew my great grandmothers, not many can say that. In the picture of the four generations, Great Gramma is the one who looks the least stressed and she went through the most hardships.

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  7. fatimasaysell

    I agree: one must never forget the pass in order to appreciate the privileges we enjoy today. Even my own parents’ generation that survived the Spanish Civil War or WWII in many cases, went through hell and hardship for many years afterwards. We seem to take Education, housing, food, travel and leisure for granted these days, when for many people that was just a dream too far. We must always be grateful for the comforts we enjoyed today, Feminism or not.

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    1. Darlene

      In some ways, these women were feminists well before it was a word, not that they would even look at it that way. They were just trying to survive and keep their family safe. But I must admit, both of my great-grandmothers were the strong member of the marriage team and their husbands knew better than to argue with them!

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      1. fatimasaysell

        Thank you, Bernadette. I have no story to share as such, apart from my Mum bringing up 10 children (5 boys, 5 girls) on a teacher’s salary and then she also housed and looked after my eldest sister’s 2 children. That made 14 of us in a 3-bedroom flat! How did we cope? Respect for one another and team work! When there is a will, there is a way.

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      3. fatimasaysell

        Most women are in a way or other, but I think in the past they have to be extra brave and strong as they didn’t have the recognition or even the rights we enjoy today. Only the very lucky ones had a high education, most were lucky just to have some basic schooling and as for contraception….

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    1. Darlene

      There is always a possibility, although Hoffman is a very common German surname. On the way out of the airport in Nuremberg, I saw a sign, Hoffman Employment Agency. I laughed as I used to have an Employment Agency in Vancouver.

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  10. Leslie

    Bernadette and Darlene: I really appreciate Darlene Foster’s tribute to her ancestral mothers. As I read about them, it occurred to me that if the world’s “formidable,” “hardy,” “robust,” “nurturing” and “tenacious” figures don’t have the time and inclination to tell and write their own stories, whenever we can do it for ourselves and them, it is a wonderful gift. Thank you❣️

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    1. Darlene

      Thanks, Leslie. I hope by writing about these wonderful women, the younger generations will realize what it took to give us the lives we enjoy today. I want to do my small part to keep their memories alive.

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  11. marianbeaman

    Hoffman is a name that I often spotted on Lancaster County mailboxes and in phone books. A quote I spotted earlier today fits here: The more children knew about their family’s history, the stronger their sense of control over their lives, the higher their self-esteem and the more successfully they believed their families functioned. The New York Times (Stories that Bind Us, March 17, 2013)

    Ancestry and posterity go hand in hand. This post proves it. Thanks, Darlene.

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    1. Darlene

      That is a great quote, thanks, Marian. Our family is big on preserving our history as is yours. Hoffman (meaning yard person or gardener) is a very common German name so I’m not surprised you noticed it in Lancaster County as well.

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    1. Darlene

      They had large families on the prairies at that time. Everyone helped work on the farm, cook, clean and look after the little ones. There are tons of descendants too and we all keep in touch. It is a wonderful family to be part of.

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  13. D. Wallace Peach

    Wonderful share, Darlene and Bernadette. These strong pioneering women were amazing, truly the backbones of their families. Stories like this feed my belief that there’s a story in each of us worth being told. Cheers for the long lines of female ancestors who nurtured the next generations.

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  14. Patricia Tilton

    What a beautiful tribute to the strong women in your life. It amazes me that you knew them. My great grandmothers and grandfathers all died before I was born. I wish I knew more about their stories — even both my grandmother’s stories. I only remember snippets of stories told and at one time had some letters they wrote, but lost in moves. You have a remarkable “Little House on the Prairie” stories to tell — sod houses. Wow! Have you thought about creating MG books about their lives?

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    1. Darlene

      I am so thankful I knew them, even if only a short time. I am also thankful that the family keeps records and meets every 5 years for a huge reunion where we share stories. I’m glad you enjoyed the post, Jennie.

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      1. Jennie

        How wonderful! Records, photos, and reunions will keep the stories and memories alive for generations to come. And you were lucky to have known them. Hmm… Amanda in Canada? She goes back in time. Oooo! Thanks, Darlene.

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      1. teawithjennifer

        I am making a scrapbook for each of my grandchildren of all of the fun times & things we have together, just us. It’s their 18th birthday gift.
        My eldest granddaughter received hers last year & absolutely loved it…
        I would have loved something of the same of my grandmothers 🙂
        Memories are precious.

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      2. Bernadette

        Watching how they love or at least respect others is an important thing for children to see and learn on a visceral level. I had a very controlling mother-in-law and three little boys. I knew they were watching how I treated her and I knew that I was going to be in her shoes one day. I made sure that they learned the less that you may not always love a family member but they are to be treated with respect.

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      1. teawithjennifer

        I keep all the tickets of events, birthday invitations & school concert brochures/items that I am able to attend for them & include all these in the scrapbook as well, they absolutely love it! I also write a short note on each page of that particular time spent together. Otherwise they are just photos of unknown events to the child as they don’t necessarily remember until the story triggers some memory of the event.
        I only include the special time each individual grandchild & I have together so I don’t take away from their Mum’s joy of doing their own family ones for them 😉

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      3. teawithjennifer

        Make sure you take a selfie/photo of your granchild & yourself & granddad (if he is there) to put with the memorabilia 😉 of the event,
        They love looking back over the time with you in the photos too…

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    1. Darlene

      I was very fortunate in that regard. At that time everyone lived in the same community. Even though our family has spread out now, we still manage to keep in touch. Thankfully, with social media, I am able to maintain a close relationship with my grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

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  24. robbiesinspiration

    This is an incredible story of endurance, strength and determination. The settlers had a very hard life. I am writing a book about my Mother’s life as a young girl growing up in an English town during WWII. Her family’s life was also incredibly hard with the rationing, freezing cold and bombing.

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    3. Darlene

      Your next book about your mother sounds wonderful. I have always been grateful that I have never lived through a war. It must have been very difficult. By immigrating to Canada when they did, my family missed both wars.

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  25. bitaboutbritain

    Simply fabulous. Really enjoyed reading it – no one could so and not feel inspired. Most of us are so lucky these days; when things seem a little tough, we should cast our minds back to the fortitude and achievements of those that went before us. We are all children of survivors in some ways. But the uncertainty of being an immigrant was – and still is – unique. You must be very proud.

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  26. roughwighting

    Oh my gosh, I’m crying as I read these incredible stories of two brave, strong, amazing women — your ancestors, Darlene. What makes me mad is how little we hear about/read about the bravery, tenacity, love of family of women like these two. Our history books have it all wrong.
    THANK YOU for sharing their story here, Darlene, and to Bernadette, for giving Darlene the forum to do so. xo

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    1. Darlene

      Thanks so much, Pam. I am touched by your words. I do believe women were instrumental in building both of our countries. These two women worked side by side of their husbands to create a good life for those who came after.

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  27. Perpetual Helix

    This was amazing, my dear grandmother was from Saskatchewan and when she met my granddad in a dance hall whilst over with the air force, she began courting him and eventually married him. She did move over to England but both my grandma and grandpa missed the life and actually returned there for two arduous years, the winters running the farm was too much and they were not making any money and hence returned to England, where my granddad still resides and unfortunately my grandma past away in 2015. I miss her so much, she so inspired me as she too had 3 children who she moved back and to England and then went on to have another two, which one of them turned out to be my mother.

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