Sorrow and Loss


The Starry Night

Vincent van Gogh

“When he shall die,
Take him and cut him out in little stars,
And he will make the face of heaven so fine
That all the world will be in love with night
And pay no worship to the garish sun.

William Shakespeare

My dear friends, it is with a very great sorrow that I tell you that my dear son Andrew died yesterday.

About Bernadette

I live in the small town of Haddonfield, NJ. I am at an age in my life when I seem to spend time thinking and musing about life. These musings are usually stimulated by my walks through Haddonfield, my reading of books and fellow bloggers, and my interaction with my group of fabulous family and friends.

110 Responses

  1. Hitting the ‘like’ button has never seemed so inappropriate but I do it to show you my support at such a terrible time. I’m so sorry for your loss, Bernadette. I hope you can take comfort from the love of your family and friends, and from your wide community of blogging friends too. We’re all here for you xx

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  2. Oh Bernadette, I am so sorry to read the words of this post – and I have none to share that will make your grief any less overwhelming. It’s a journey you are just beginning. You will never “get over it” – but there will come a time when you can take a peaceful breath again. Just not today. I send you and your family my prayers and my condolences for this terrible loss.
    xx,
    mgh

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  3. I am so sorry to hear of what happened, Bernadette. My thoughts are with you and stay strong. Hope the love and support from your family, friends and here in the blogging world gets you through this. Stay safe and take care.

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  4. I have just taken an ebreak and yours is the first post I saw when I switched on this morning. My heart swells with sadness and as everyone else here, I am sure, I feel helpless to ease your pain. My thoughts are with you and your family, I send you my love and a virtual hug. 💜

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  5. Dear Bernadette, such terribly sad and devastating news. Like Clive, I wished for a different button than “like.” I want a button that instantly surrounds you with the kind of support that goes beyond words, a virtual but real hug. There really are no words that truly reach sorrow and only love heals loss. All I can do is pray for strength and peace for you, and thank God for the gift you are to the world. Love never ends, Bernadette. Andrew will always remain in yours and yours in him. May each tear you shed bring healing. We are here for you, surrounding you with our love and hugs, Jo

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  6. I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m sending you hugs and prayers during this time of sorrow, Bernadette. I struggle to find words that adequately express my feelings and I’m coming up short. Just know you’re in my prayers.

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  7. oh Bernadette, so so so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts & prayers. May the Everlasting Arms of God encircle your hurting heart with love & comfort… & may your precious son Andrew rest in peace. 💜💕🙏💕💜

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  8. Bernadette..

    I just wanted to reach out and tell you I’m keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

    I won’t pretend to know the depth of your pain and grief in the loss of your son. But I do know grief and pain and I do know the heartbreak that goes along with it. I’ve found there is no one size fits all in this…..I have no doubt, you’ll find your own way to heal. Grief, I’m finding, isn’t easily shared or understood by those who haven’t had to deal with it………I’ll end this with Blessings and Love to you ❤
    And please take care of yourself, now more then ever Bernadette 🙏
    Love, peace and healing light 💛☀

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  9. Nancy McGonigle

    While enduring imaginable grief; you manage to offer inspiration . Our thoughts and prayers will continue for your family.When we sit under a star studded sky; we will think of Andrew and his smile .

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  10. Dear Bernadette ! I agree with all the other fellow bloggers that to use the “like button” seems inappropriate but not to react is inhuman. The loss of a child is what we as a parent fear to experience. I will also stand with you and pray for you in this difficult time. Love and hugs from me/ Maria

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  11. I am so very sorry to hear this. I can´t imagine the pain and sorrow of losing a child. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Someone once said this to me when I lost a dear brother, and I found comfort in it. “Time will ease the pain but the love will never end.”

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  12. Bernadette, I am so sorry about the loss of your son. I’ve lost some very special people in my life but I can’t imagine what it is like to lose your child. I admire your courage and thank you letting us know about your loss. My condolences to you and your family. Sending hugs.

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  13. Bernadette, I am sad at the loss of your son. I am unable to imagine the pain and sorrow you and your family are going through. Know, you and your family are in my heart, thoughts and prayers as you go through this difficult time.

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  14. Meredith

    Ms Bern, I wish I could take your sadness away… The love that Andrew had for his family is indescribable. He loved you so much. Wishing I was there to hug you tight. I’m so blessed to know him and his incredible family. You are the best mom. I love you!

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  15. Bernadette, my heart aches for you. May you and your loved ones find peace and comfort through the love being shared with you. You especially will be remembered in my daily prayers from m this day forward. Warm hugs and may the peace of Christ be with you.

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  16. Bernadette, what to say to help ease the pain? There are no words, but I am sending you and your family love, peace, serenity, and understanding. You have offered many of us the same support through the years, so please accept our offerings back to you. Know you are held close to our hearts. Margo

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  17. My dear Bernadette, I can’t express my sorrow on reading this. You, and your family are and will remain in my thoughts. The only thing I have to send you is my most heartfelt sadness, sympathy and love. Andrew was loved and Andrew loved. May you take comfort from that in time. My warmest, most heartfelt thoughts to you all. With love. Osyth. x

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  18. Oh Bernadette, my heart weeps for you. I cannot know your pain but I lost my teenage daughter to a DWI so I do know the pain of losing a child. The grief cannot ever be resolved but the hole in your heart can one day soon be filled with loving memories. We can’t ‘get over it’, we don’t want to ‘get over it.’Writing about it saved my life when I could not speak so you might find that one outlet as you call out to God, Why? It was hard to hit the ‘like’ button but I want the world to weep with you. I am always here for you whenever you may need me.

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  19. From one bereaved mum to another x I feel your pain ♡ I’m glad we have this space on wordpress to connect with other parents who have lost loved ones. I am here for you x

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  20. Marie Butcher Steeb

    Bernadette, we don’t know each other very well. But I do know how it is to lose a son. So sorry for your loss. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.

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  21. Oh, Bernadette.. My heart is aching for you and I am not ashamed to admit that I cried when I read your post. I think as mothers our hearts are intertwined. Praying always Bernadette and sending much love and comforting hugs from Idaho. ❤

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  22. Oh dear! This just shocked me. Bernadette, I am so, so sorry to learn of Andrew’s passing. I can’t imagine what your family must be going through. Losing a child is beyond words that I don’t even know what to say. I’ve read a few of your posts on Andrew and from your words felt the intense love and sadness that you felt about his situation. My heart offers prayers for you and yours to stay strong. Know that he is amongst the stars. My deep condolences.

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  23. Bernadette, I agree with Clive, pressing the like button is just a token to show how all the bloggers who got to know you and your family so very much want to give comfort.

    Personally I feel totally inadequate as I cannot imagine how I would cope with the loss of one of my children. The sorrow so deep and lasting. I pray you soon see some light around you and that your heart that now feel such sorrow will have increased capacity for beauty and joy.
    miriam

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  24. Dearest Bernadette, my heart is heavy with sorrow, so deeply sad for you. Words pale into insignificance, just want to say you’re in my thoughts and prayers. Warmest hugs, Annika xx

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  25. Dear Bernadette, we don’t know each other personally, only through the blog, but are friends nevertheless. I am so so sorry to hear of your sad loss. I too cannot find the words, but I am thinking of you at this very sad time.

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  26. Oh, Bernadette, I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son, Andrew. Sending you light and love and hoping that you find comfort in the arms of family and friends. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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