I am participating in the kindness challenge directed by Niki at The Richness of a Simple Life. This is week #3 and the challenge that I concentrated on this week was to be more aware of my thoughts and judgements and to turn these thoughts away from criticism and toward kindness.
This was the most difficult week of the challenge. I found that my kind thoughts were much rarer than my kind words and deeds. The difficulty with kind thoughts is that I had to think about the other person instead of making a snap judgement and moving onto thinking about more entertaining things – like myself.
I have made some progress this week. The progress had come in the form of awareness. At least now when the thoughtless criticism or judgement comes to mind I am aware of what I am doing. I have started to examine these moments of thoughtlessness and to slow down enough in my thinking to call myself out on what I am doing. I started to really think about the person whose actions I so quickly passed judgement upon. And I have tried to reframe my thinking toward a kinder outcome.
Again, I will tell you that this has been very challenging. At times I feel like that old cartoon of the devil being on one shoulder and an angel on the other.
I listen to the angel and try to understand the other person’s actions and remove the judgement and find some kind thought to replace the judgement. And then, the devil leans in and whispers in my ear, “Oh this is just a bunch of baloney; you know that you are right.”
Obviously I still have a lot of work to do as a result of Week #3’s Challenge.
Wishing you a week filled in with kind thoughts,