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My dear friend has had brain surgery and I finally was able to visit her this week.  It broke my heart to see such a strong, vibrant person so helpless and dependent on other people.

We sat and we talked and we joked and sternly told each other that we would not make each other cry.  But, of course, this is a very dear intimate friend and this farce could only last so long.

Finally she said to me, Bern, I don’t understand why so many things have happened to us since we were young.  I had to say that I honestly didn’t understand either why there have been so many rough events for us. We never expected any of them.  We were young and excited and fearless about life and we were sure life would fulfill all our expectations for happiness.  What to say?

And then I remembered the homily about the quilt –


I was at a service one time and the minister was speaking about how life an enormous amount of the time just doesn’t make any sense or have any rhyme or reason.  He compared life to a quilt.  He said when you looked at the underside of a quilt you saw loads of knots and loose strings and none of them formed any kind of pattern.  But when you turned the quilt over all those strings and knots formed a pattern that led to beauty.

We discussed the idea that especially that day we were looking at the underside of the quilt and seeing all the knots and just had to trust that some beauty was in the design.  And perhaps part of the beauty of the day was the affirmation of our love for each other.

Sending you more beauty than knots,


About Bernadette

I live in the small town of Haddonfield, NJ. I am at an age in my life when I seem to spend time thinking and musing about life. These musings are usually stimulated by my walks through Haddonfield, my reading of books and fellow bloggers, and my interaction with my group of fabulous family and friends.

27 Responses

  1. Lisa

    This is a really wise way of looking at life! I like it. I think we get tangled up in the messy stuff sometimes and forget the good stuff. Best wishes to your friend!

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  2. Thank you, Bernadette for writing from the heart this morning. I am sorry to hear that your friend is struggling with both her heath and life questions/answers, but I think you sum the answer up beautifully with your metaphor of the knots ont he back of a quilt. Sending good karma through the airways…

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  3. Kathleen Neagle Sokolowski

    I love this post. That quilt metaphor will stay with me. Your last line was perfect. Wishing you the same and good health to your friend.

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  4. Your quilt metaphor is lovely and wise and I hope it brought some comfort to both you and your friend. I am so sorry that you and your friend are facing such a difficult time. I love the idea that the beauty of this one day perhaps is in the affirmation of your friendship and love for each other. I hope her recovery is smooth and that you and she are able to enjoy the beauty of the quilt sooner rather than later. Take care…

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  5. Bernadette, at this time my friends can use more beauty than knots but life goes on in its daily path to finding our greatness. Sometimes, as you mentioned it is just difficult to tie the knows. Thanks for the metaphor.


  6. robjodiefilogomo

    Wow—what a great message, yet it’s so true. Without all the bad things in our life, would we be able to appreciate the good things? And sometimes those bad times, bring us people in our lives we wouldn’t have met otherwise.


  7. Anonymous

    Those hard times are so much better when pieced together with the love of friends and family. I’m so glad your friend has you there with her.


  8. So often we dwell on the underside without turning it over to see the beauty of the whole. I firmly believe that we are never given more that we can handle at any one time. It is easy to ask “Why me?” Now when people ask me what happened and why me I just simple answer, “Why not me?” Hope your friend has a speedy recovery.


  9. Wonderful analogy! Life is definitely both the undersides of the quilt and the beautiful pattern on top! Thanks for sharing Bernadette..I wish your friend a speedy recovery 🙂


  10. What a lovely metaphor as Tara says too and the other commenters. Some times I get the thought that we become strong under pressure like training. My example is a weaker picture of it but the end result is something beautiful


  11. Greetings Bernadette! I wanted to visit to thank you for following Quantum Hermit!
    I love the quilt metaphor here, which brings me to the idea that while I don’t understand a given moment, when looked at together with all the other moments of my life, I see a ‘Long and Winding Road;’ a picture when puzzled together is the patchwork of a life lived courageously, even when I don’t feel the courage in that moment. Thank you for a lovely post here.




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