Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.
Marcel Proust

I was invited to a birthday party on Saturday.  It was a surprise birthday party for my friend, Linda.  I have known Linda for a very long time.  We met when we each were carrying our first child.  These sons will soon turn 40.  It amazes me the amount of time I have been friends with Linda.

We have shared some very fun and funny experiences and we have shared some very tragic.  We have raised our children in the same town and our husbands have the same profession.  But I couldn’t help but wonder are these the things that have made us friends all these years?  What is it about someone that makes them a friend and keeps them a friend.

Oh, I know the usual answers – caring, good listening, trust, generosity, etc.  These are all very important ingredients of friendship but I still felt that there was some intangible reason that I hadn’t figured out.  Then I came across this quote from Proust.  It revealed to me the intangible reason – friends simply make you happy and therefore you want to keep them in your life.

So, Happy Birthday Linda.  Your friendship for these 40 odd years has simply made me happy.  Thanks for the happiness and helping the garden of my soul to bloom.

Wishing my readers a week filled with opportunities for your soul to bloom.


About Bernadette

I live in the small town of Haddonfield, NJ. I am at an age in my life when I seem to spend time thinking and musing about life. These musings are usually stimulated by my walks through Haddonfield, my reading of books and fellow bloggers, and my interaction with my group of fabulous family and friends.

8 Responses

  1. What a beautiful expression of your friendship. Sometimes the answer to why we are friends with someone or why we love them is just that simple: they make us happy. Those are the kinds of people we want to keep in our lives.


  2. You ask a question I have pondered, why are you my friend and you are not my friend? I like your answer. Linda sounds like a special friend. Have a happy new year Bernadette!


  3. Ramona

    There’s nothing like having a friend who’s been around for 40 years. It’s lovely to be friends with someone for such a long time. I like that you searched for why you had become and stayed friends. Wonderful discovery – she simply makes you happy! Happy New Year (a couple of days late)!



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